Tuesday, August 21, 2012
RIHANNA REVEALS TO OPRAH AND THE WORLD THAT SHE STILL LOVES CHRIS BROWN
So I finally got around to watching Rihanna's interview with Oprah at the home RiRi bought for her mother in Barbados, and while it was the best interview I've seen RiRi do, I felt it came across like the therapy session on Bethenny Ever After than an actual one on one interview. We learned a few things about RiRi sometimes feeling lonely being one of the biggest pop stars in the world and her relationship with her grandmother. But the thing everyone was sitting on the edge of their couches was really waiting for was all the questions about her relationship with Chris Brown after he gave her the Ike Turner special three years ago.
RiRi revealed that she is still in love with Chris and when they run into each other at parties of mutual friends or social events she has to put her hard face on and try not to get emotional because her love for him still exists deep down. She also said that after she was hit by Chris it took her a long time to forgive him, but it forced her to repair her relationship with her father, who was abusive to her mother in the past.
Check out the highlights below...
On the Chris Brown domestic violence incident
I was hurt the most. Nobody felt what I felt. I was hurt because it happened to me. It happened to me in front of the world. It was embarrassing, it was humiliating. It was hurtful. It’s not easy. I lost my best friend. Everything I knew switched in a night and I couldn’t control that. I had to deal with that and it’s not easy for me to understand or interpret and it’s not easy for me to interpret on camera with the world watching. So it’s hard for me to pay attention to my mind and figuring things out because now it became a circus and I felt protective. I felt like the only person that they hate right now is him and it was a weird confusing space to be in. Cause’ As angry as I was, as hurt and betrayed, I felt that he made that mistake because he needed help. Who’s going to help him? Nobody is going to say, ‘he needs help’. Everyone is going to say he’s a monster without looking at the source. I was more concerned about him.
On what her relationship with Chris Brown is like now:
"We've been working on our friendship again. Now we're very, very close friends. We've built a trust again and that's it. We love each other and we probably always will. That's not anything we're going to try to change. That's not something you can shut off if you've ever been in love."
On if they're still having sex as some tabloids have been reporting every other week:
"No. He's in a relationship of his own. I'm single, but we have maintained a very close friendship ever since the restraining order has been dropped. We've just worked on it little by little and it has not been easy. It's not easy."
On Her Fans and What she’d like for them to know
I put a lot of importance in my relationship with my fans. I want them to feel comfortable knowing that I have flaws as well. I want them to know those flaws because I am afraid of the pedestal that comes with fame and being a celebrity so I keep myself as close to the ground as possible. I don’t ever want to be above them [and for them to think] that because they are fans that I am not one of them and they are not one of us. We are all people. We all have a purpose.
On if she considers herself a role model
No because of what society has made that title. It has become a title of perfection and that is something that no one can achieve.
On how she feels whenever she runs into Chris Brown in person:
"It's awkward, because I still love him. My stomach drops and I have to maintain this poker face and not let it get to the outer part of me. I have to maintain that and suppress it, but interpret it and understand it and understand that it's not going to go away. That is peaceful. When you don't understand those feelings, you can make a lot of mistakes."
On if Chris Brown is the love of her life:
"Absolutely, I think he was the love of my life. He was the first love and I see that he loved me the same way. We were very young and very spontaneous. We ran free. We ran wild. We were falling in love and going at a really rapid pace and we forgot about ourselves as individuals.
On how she wants Chris Brown to be in a happy place:
"I truly love him. The main thing for me is that he is at peace. You know, I'm not at peace if he's a little unhappy or if he's still lonely. I care. It actually matters that he finds that peace."
On being the bigger person and forgiving Chris Brown:
"I thought I hated Chris and I realized it was love that wash tarnished. It looked like hate, because it was ugly, angry and inflamed. It was tainted. And I realize that what it was, I had to forgive him, because I cared about him still. The minute I let go of that, I started living again."
On what it would take to find a man like the one ‘Grandma Dolly’ thinks she should have
I don’t put too much [thought] into it. I know what I want. I know if I had it my way, I want a man that loves me, cherishes me, values me.. But they have to know my value in order to value me. They have to know my worth and they can only know my worth if I know my worth. I want him to respect me but I want fun times.
I just want to laugh. I have everything else, all I want is a partner in crime to enjoy it with me.
I was pleasantly surprised at how honest, engaging, grounded and self-aware Rihanna came across in the interview. Normally I look at some of these mainstream pop stars and they come across as spoiled, dingy, uptight idiots who think by throwing a few words they had their assistant read to them out of a thesaurus it makes them sound smarter than they think they are. But I truly believe that Rihanna is someone who is observant and is very intelligent. As for her feelings on Chris Brown, I'm glad she has allowed herself closure on the relationship and she is a young girl who was in love with someone who was dealing with his own fucked up personal issues. But as I have said before I do not feel that Chris is sorry for what he did to her because he has shown his disrespect in his actions. Let's not forget the shitty things he has said about her every now and again on Twitter after they slowly began to rekindle their friendship.
I think Chris still has a ways to go to mature into the man he needs to be and he definitely needs to find his own way without Rihanna being in the picture again. To me they seem like two people deep in love who are toxic for each other when they get together and one day RiRi will find someone who will love her more than she loves herself. After watching the interview it definitely made me love RiRi alot omore.
Check out the full interview below...
(FULL VIDEO) Oprah's Next Chapter: Rihanna
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