The other day, we took a moment to bask in the gospel according to Roseanne as she vented on her views of Chris Brown's abusiveness towards Rihanna. Well she's gone on another rant about abusive men and the women who atay with them.
Here's the latest from Roseanne:
women who go back to men who have hit them are usually violent too--they escalate conflict by using verbal humiliation and often throw the first punch, but are then unable to withstand the strength of the man's counter attack.
Alot of guys hit women because the women are hitting them, verbally abusing them or throwing the keys to their car outside and goading them on, and they lose control of themselves. This is what it sounds like to be in the rhianna-chris brown affair. there is no way out of violence if you are violent. the only way to win is not to play the game.
In the later stages, she won't leave because her will is destroyed, and a violent line crossed, because once the guy threatens to kill her, it becomes almost impossible for her to leave.
i hope rhianna is getting counseling from a professional counselor who will tell her that there is no way for her to ever win, and that she will have to curtail her own penchant for escalating conflict by screaming at or hitting or humiliating her abuser. I hope he gets real counseling too, that is not from a minister or his mom or any other shame based bullshit method that will never work, and that is designed to avoid dealing directly with self-control issues. I hope that they both leave each other alone and get over their faults.
I hope she does not continue to play the game with him. If they still love each other after they learn self control and conflict resolution, then they can get back together.
Fuck seeing a counselor! Chris Brown needs to pay Roseanne some dollers just to have her cuss his ass out for an hour.
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